Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Dated : 31072007
Look at this article, photos of these south korean struck at taliban.
Just today, another korean was reported KILLED,..bullet-riddled body.
How cruel can these people get to??!!
[SEOUL] South Korea -
South Korea confirmed Tuesday that a 29-year-old man was the second South Korean hostage killed in Afghanistan, and said further deaths would not go unanswered in the standoff where 21 people remained captives of the Taliban.
The body of Shim Sung-min, a former information technology worker who was a volunteer with a South Korean church group on an aid mission to Afghanistan, was found Tuesday morning by Afghan authorities.
Foreign Ministry spokesman Cho Hee-yong confirmed his identity in a briefing to reporters.
"The government expresses deep condolences to his family," Cho said.
"We cannot contain our anger at this merciless killing and strongly condemn this."
"If there is an act claiming the lives of our people again, the government won't sit idly by and watch," presidential spokesman Cheon Ho-sun said.
"We will ensure they take responsibility for the lives of our people."
"We pray for the souls of the killed and offer deep words of comfort from our heart," Cheon said.
The first hostage - The church group's leader, Pastor Bae Hyung-kyu, was shot dead last week in unclear circumstances.
Shim was the second hostage killed in the standoff that began July 19 when the group from the Saemmul Community Church was seized from a bus while driving from the Afghan capital, Kabul, to the southern city of Kandahar.
The church group's leader, Pastor Bae Hyung-kyu, was shot dead last week in unclear circumstances.
Two deadlines given by the captors for the release of Taliban prisoners passed Monday without any action, before the insurgents said late Monday that a second hostage had been shot.
The Taliban have threatened to kill all the hostages if their demands are not met.
Cheon, the presidential spokesman, said Seoul was constrained in its ability to meet the Taliban demand because it had limited influence on the Afghan government.
South Korea "strongly condemns the kidnapping organization seizing innocent civilians and claiming their lives while making a demand that we cannot address," he said.
"The kidnapped people are not prisoners or criminals.
They are civilians who went there for humanitarian volunteer work," Cheon said. "It can never be justified to kidnap innocent civilians and kill them."
The slain hostage Shim had majored in engineering at college and recently left his job to prepare for graduate school, according to local media reports.
Shim, whose aunt is visually impaired, had always been concerned about the difficulties faced by the handicapped and worked as a volunteer teacher for handicapped children at his church, family members said.
"Last year, he visited the Philippines for five days as a volunteer worker.
He also served in the military as an army officer."
Shim majored in engineering at college and recently left his job to prepare for graduate school, according to local media reports.
Shim, whose aunt is visually impaired, had always been concerned about the difficulties faced by the handicapped and worked as a volunteer teacher with handicapped children at his church, family members said.
Last year, he visited the Philippines for five days as a volunteer worker.
Shim had also previously served as an army officer.
"My son Sung-min was more chivalrous and warmhearted than (most) other young people," his father Shim Jin-pyo, 62, told reporters earlier Tuesday.
"He considered it a principle of his life to help needy neighbors and the weak. ...
He has never been defiant or resistant.
He has always been positive and friendly."
Shim Jin-pyo said his wife collapsed when the family heard their son could be the Taliban's latest victim.
The church group's leader, Pastor Bae Hyung-kyu, was shot dead last week in unclear circumstances.
Two deadlines given by the captors for the release of Taliban prisoners passed Monday without any action, before the insurgents said late Monday that a second hostage had been shot.
The Taliban have threatened to kill all the hostages if their demands are not met.
Cheon, the presidential spokesman, said Seoul was constrained in its ability to meet the Taliban demand because it had limited influence on the Afghan government.
South Korea "strongly condemns the kidnapping organization seizing innocent civilians and claiming their lives while making a demand that we cannot address," he said.
"The kidnapped people are not prisoners or criminals.
They are civilians who went there for humanitarian volunteer work," Cheon said. "It can never be justified to kidnap innocent civilians and kill them."
The slain hostage Shim had majored in engineering at college and recently left his job to prepare for graduate school, according to local media reports.
Shim, whose aunt is visually impaired, had always been concerned about the difficulties faced by the handicapped and worked as a volunteer teacher for handicapped children at his church, family members said.
"Last year, he visited the Philippines for five days as a volunteer worker.
He also served in the military as an army officer."
Shim majored in engineering at college and recently left his job to prepare for graduate school, according to local media reports.
Shim, whose aunt is visually impaired, had always been concerned about the difficulties faced by the handicapped and worked as a volunteer teacher with handicapped children at his church, family members said.
Last year, he visited the Philippines for five days as a volunteer worker.
Shim had also previously served as an army officer.
"My son Sung-min was more chivalrous and warmhearted than (most) other young people," his father Shim Jin-pyo, 62, told reporters earlier Tuesday.
"He considered it a principle of his life to help needy neighbors and the weak. ...
He has never been defiant or resistant.
He has always been positive and friendly."
Shim Jin-pyo said his wife collapsed when the family heard their son could be the Taliban's latest victim.
:Let's us pray for a good turn.
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Dated : 28072007Thoughts for the day.
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Words are just words.
I'm tired from all the talking sometimes.
Some says i'm difficult, some says i'm objective.
Maybe that's me.
Even words can't ensure any future.
Cos promises at times are only just words.
Someone had asked me : how many dreams have you created with all your ex gfs?
I put the picture as, why didn't anyone see me holding a broken picture when those dreams are shattered?
Broken dreams with scarred, hatred, together with tons of disappointments.
Everyone changes as time passes, you grow up with more dreams and desires.
You don't just stand at a spot and wait for nothing.
Pardon my straightfulness or being blunt.
If any cannot accept my faults or being what i am, i become what i'm not, me.
Always put yourself in one's shoe before you plan to say "no". (Sound familar?)
That's because I always says that in the past.
Now i hear that one person has understood what i mean and she's terribly regretful.
I could not but shake my head.
Neither did i turn my head around for the fear of being soft-hearted and getting bullied.
I think i'm too soft and too kind to others.
I shouldn't have.
When i am nice, don't think i'm weak to bully.
I'm stronger than you can imagine.
Well, I have my bad points too.
When you accumulated too many images, experience, terms or life stories, you tend to talk abt it.
I think i have lot in my pockets and i talk rubbish all the time.
Stop calling me a P.H.D holder because i'm nothing like that.
I may have done and achieved my goals.
I may have worked harder than any of the people i known, SO WHAT?
Now, i realised there are many pple out there who's not happy at what i talks sometimes.
Even my own gf says i'm too objective.
She says we are too different.
The way i acknowledge her dreams, comforting her and to standby her even if the whole world is against her.
I accept the way she thinks about me.
All i have to say is..
Half my life, i seek for a better, ideal life, finding all ways to turn straight after a bend.
I will try, try until i can't.
If that's isn't enough, i am surely not the one meant for anyone.
It breaks my heart saying all these words.
It definitely do.
Dated : 28072007
Author helps couples accept their differences
BY STUART WOLPERT
Maybe it's the same old fight over a growing pile of credit card bills or a skirmish about whose weekend plans will win out this time - a symphony concert or a night of professional hockey?
BY STUART WOLPERT
Maybe it's the same old fight over a growing pile of credit card bills or a skirmish about whose weekend plans will win out this time - a symphony concert or a night of professional hockey?
If you and your spouse happen to be at war and not exactly in the right mood to exchange sweetly worded Valentine's cards tomorrow, take heart.
UCLA Professor of Psychology Andrew Christensen has some down-to-earth advice about the conflicts couples have and ways they can more quickly recover from them in a book that has just been selected a finalist for "Book of the Year" in a competition sponsored by Books for a Better Life in the relationship category.
All couples have conflicts, stressed Christensen, co-author of "Reconcilable Differences" (Guilford Press), a book that helps people reduce the number of arguments in their relationship and minimize the anger and resentment that often accompany these battles.
In fact, one study found that "incompatibility is a mathematical certainty," although early in relationships, we may not see, or pay attention to, important differences.
UCLA Professor of Psychology Andrew Christensen has some down-to-earth advice about the conflicts couples have and ways they can more quickly recover from them in a book that has just been selected a finalist for "Book of the Year" in a competition sponsored by Books for a Better Life in the relationship category.
All couples have conflicts, stressed Christensen, co-author of "Reconcilable Differences" (Guilford Press), a book that helps people reduce the number of arguments in their relationship and minimize the anger and resentment that often accompany these battles.
In fact, one study found that "incompatibility is a mathematical certainty," although early in relationships, we may not see, or pay attention to, important differences.
When these differences become clearer, we often have the "fantasy" that we can make our partner change.
The truth is that in marriages, people are unlikely to change, no matter how much their spouses demand it, said Christensen.
"We want our partner to admit we are right and to make the changes we say are necessary," he said. "We think a transformation will take place in our partner's behavior and attitude, and we even may expect to be thanked for pointing out the other person's deficiencies.
The truth is that in marriages, people are unlikely to change, no matter how much their spouses demand it, said Christensen.
"We want our partner to admit we are right and to make the changes we say are necessary," he said. "We think a transformation will take place in our partner's behavior and attitude, and we even may expect to be thanked for pointing out the other person's deficiencies.
Most of our efforts toward change in our partners are driven by this fantasy, and most of these efforts are unsuccessful.
Eliciting change from your spouse without demonstrating acceptance of his or her position is difficult, and often impossible."
Contrary to what many believe, he noted, "People cannot change their basic essence even if they try, and it is futile to demand that they do so.
Contrary to what many believe, he noted, "People cannot change their basic essence even if they try, and it is futile to demand that they do so.
To love and marry someone, you must accept the essence of the other person, you must accept who he or she is.
You can push for change at the periphery, but not at the core.
Marriage is a package deal; you don't get a line-item veto over your partner's personality where you can discard the traits you don't like."
A solution, said Christensen, who wrote the book with the late Neil Jacobson, professor of psychology at the University of Washington, is to be more accepting and to see a spouse's shortcomings as "endearing, or at least easily forgivable."
A solution, said Christensen, who wrote the book with the late Neil Jacobson, professor of psychology at the University of Washington, is to be more accepting and to see a spouse's shortcomings as "endearing, or at least easily forgivable."
The best solutions to most problems, they say, involve a combination of acceptance and change.
Crimes of the heart
Christensen, who has worked with hundreds of couples in therapy for more than 20 years, believes couples should put their squabbles in perspective. "The crimes of the heart are usually misdemeanors, even though they sometimes feel like felonies," he said.
Couples fight about all kinds of things, but most common are "daily slights, inattentive acts and routine disrespects that hurt and anger us," the psychologist said. For example, he shows little interest when she talks about her day at the office. And she tires of his litany of complaints about his job.
"Most of the change we seek in our relationships is gradual change in everyday behavior," Christensen said.
Crimes of the heart
Christensen, who has worked with hundreds of couples in therapy for more than 20 years, believes couples should put their squabbles in perspective. "The crimes of the heart are usually misdemeanors, even though they sometimes feel like felonies," he said.
Couples fight about all kinds of things, but most common are "daily slights, inattentive acts and routine disrespects that hurt and anger us," the psychologist said. For example, he shows little interest when she talks about her day at the office. And she tires of his litany of complaints about his job.
"Most of the change we seek in our relationships is gradual change in everyday behavior," Christensen said.
"Do more of the housework; spend more time with the kids; don't be so critical; pay more attention when I talk to you; be more ambitious at work; put more energy into our relationship."
In fact, we may actually grow to dislike in our spouses the very personality traits that attracted us in the first place, the authors said.
A "Cathy" cartoon illustrates this turnabout.
In fact, we may actually grow to dislike in our spouses the very personality traits that attracted us in the first place, the authors said.
A "Cathy" cartoon illustrates this turnabout.
Cathy's mother says to her:
"When you met Irving, you raved about his ambition. ...
When you broke up, you called him a 'self-absorbed workaholic.'
When you met Alex, you gushed about his free spirit. ...
When you broke up, he was 'directionless and immature.' "
Where to begin?
Two major issues that need to be resolved in marriages involve closeness and power, Christensen and Jacobson advised, and couples need to make their own rules that work best for them.
"Closeness can be so intense that one or both have little existence apart from their relationship or, at the other extreme, grow so far apart over the years that they live in entirely separate worlds," Christensen said.
Where to begin?
Two major issues that need to be resolved in marriages involve closeness and power, Christensen and Jacobson advised, and couples need to make their own rules that work best for them.
"Closeness can be so intense that one or both have little existence apart from their relationship or, at the other extreme, grow so far apart over the years that they live in entirely separate worlds," Christensen said.
"Couples must find their own level of closeness that fulfills their needs for companionship and intimacy without robbing them of their needs for independence."
Each may want a high level of closeness, but may disagree on what that means.
Each may want a high level of closeness, but may disagree on what that means.
He may mean mainly physical proximity, while she may want mainly emotional connection.
Said Christensen: "For one person in a couple, making love may be a way to achieve closeness, while for the other, it may be an expression of closeness that has already been achieved."
Couples should also work out a division of power and responsibility for such matters as household tasks and child care according to their needs, interests and abilities.
Consider disputes over spending money.
Couples should also work out a division of power and responsibility for such matters as household tasks and child care according to their needs, interests and abilities.
Consider disputes over spending money.
The husband may feel he should control the finances, and the wife may feel she should have equal control, Christensen said.
"Many couples today have joint control over finances, but does joint control mean that we both agree on every purchase or only on major purchases?" Christensen asked.
When there's disagreement, many couples address conflict with "toxic cures" - accusation, blame, coercion, defensiveness, avoidance and denial - Christensen and Jacobson wrote. As a result, "we end up hurt, angry, defensive and frustrated - and our conflicts perpetuate themselves," Christensen said.
Seeking the 'third side' to every story
In marital conflicts, there are often "three sides to every story" - hers, his and an outsider's, often discerning partial truth in each version.
"Many couples today have joint control over finances, but does joint control mean that we both agree on every purchase or only on major purchases?" Christensen asked.
When there's disagreement, many couples address conflict with "toxic cures" - accusation, blame, coercion, defensiveness, avoidance and denial - Christensen and Jacobson wrote. As a result, "we end up hurt, angry, defensive and frustrated - and our conflicts perpetuate themselves," Christensen said.
Seeking the 'third side' to every story
In marital conflicts, there are often "three sides to every story" - hers, his and an outsider's, often discerning partial truth in each version.
For example, a wife says her husband never shares his feelings and withdraws; she says he gives perfunctory answers to her questions and does not confide in her, which makes her feel neglected.
His side of the story is that she's always pressuring him to reveal his innermost feelings when he's dog-tired in the evening and not feeling much of anything.
He feels he can handle his problems himself and does not want to burden her with them.
An outsider might say that her style is to speak her mind and be open with her feelings while he is shy and private.
An outsider might say that her style is to speak her mind and be open with her feelings while he is shy and private.
His need for time alone conflicts with her need for time together.
The more he seeks independence, the more she presses for closeness.
She begins to see his shyness as inadequacy and his reluctance to communicate as a lack of love. He begins to see her emotional responses as immaturity.
The more he withdraws, the angrier she gets.
Their differences become a source of argument, with criticisms, defensiveness and withdrawal.
Explained Christensen: "Acceptance does not mean giving in or tolerating behavior with which you are not comfortable, and does not mean you never argue.
Explained Christensen: "Acceptance does not mean giving in or tolerating behavior with which you are not comfortable, and does not mean you never argue.
Rather, it means seeing behavior in the larger picture of who your spouse is.
It means sending the message 'I love you the way you are, and I don't expect you to change to accommodate my needs.'
"Paradoxically, when we feel accepted, we don't feel defensive, are better able to understand our spouse's feelings and concerns and may change because we want our spouse to feel better."
Healing the heart
Once a better understanding of your relationship has been achieved, Christensen and Jacobson offer some general guidelines for improving relationships:
Develop the "third side" of the story that incorporates your partner's perspective, as well as your own. Try viewing the problem as an unfortunate "difficulty we have," rather than something your partner does to you.
In an argument, demonstrate that you have heard your spouse by accurately and fairly summarizing what he or she says before responding, and then ask your spouse to do likewise.
"Paradoxically, when we feel accepted, we don't feel defensive, are better able to understand our spouse's feelings and concerns and may change because we want our spouse to feel better."
Healing the heart
Once a better understanding of your relationship has been achieved, Christensen and Jacobson offer some general guidelines for improving relationships:
Develop the "third side" of the story that incorporates your partner's perspective, as well as your own. Try viewing the problem as an unfortunate "difficulty we have," rather than something your partner does to you.
In an argument, demonstrate that you have heard your spouse by accurately and fairly summarizing what he or she says before responding, and then ask your spouse to do likewise.
If talking with your spouse about some issues is not constructive, try writing a note or making an audio or videotape recording.
This may get your spouse's attention and make the communication less accusatory and less defensive.
When in conflict with your spouse, do something positive for your partner, with no strings attached.
Focus on one specific problem at a time, and not a whole litany of complaints and accusations. Focus more on the painful reactions that each of you has experienced rather than the negative actions that each of you believes the other has committed.
Try to understand that hurtful actions by your spouse may be protective defense mechanisms to mask his or her own pain; don't dig in your heels and insist that your way is the only right way.
When in conflict with your spouse, do something positive for your partner, with no strings attached.
Focus on one specific problem at a time, and not a whole litany of complaints and accusations. Focus more on the painful reactions that each of you has experienced rather than the negative actions that each of you believes the other has committed.
Try to understand that hurtful actions by your spouse may be protective defense mechanisms to mask his or her own pain; don't dig in your heels and insist that your way is the only right way.
Remember that the one person you can change is yourself.
When making a change in your own behavior, do not do a mere variation of your old behavior. Try to do "less of the same, and more of the different."
"When examined closely, many of our incompatibilities reveal themselves as smaller than we thought, understandable and solvable," Christensen said.
"When examined closely, many of our incompatibilities reveal themselves as smaller than we thought, understandable and solvable," Christensen said.
"By softening our position and accepting our partner's limitations, we may be able to move away from adversarial incompatibilities to reconcilable differences."
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Dated : 26072007
Oh ya, before i ends today.
Congrats to my dearest gf who got through the PSA interview this morning.
I'm proud of you.
Although this job will be in shift timings, if hearts bonds together, nothing will changes.
You worries because by then you will be so busy that there's no time for us.
I can understand that, i assure you that our dreams will still grows. (if you still rems.)
I won't forget our dream in the next 8 years as well.
Work hard.
You will have my support.
:)
Dated : 26072007
Introduction to : The Cherry Shrimps.
The latest hobby i'm into now. :)
Oh! and this the a design i got from the web, what we called : The DIY CO2 System. With a combo of Yeast and sugar, we are able to get some carbon dixoide from this mixture and it's amazing!
Below are the 20 little healthy neons tetras - $4.
Saturday, July 14, 2007
50 Steps to an Awesome Relationship [Updated Version]1. Don't just love each other, like each other too.
2. Tell her/him why you love her/him often.
3. Be affectionate to her/him.
4. Say I love you to each other, at least once in every 24 hour period.
5. Tell your lover you are their love Genie and you will grant him/her three wishes.
Things get quite interesting.
6. Make memories together.
7. Never forget that the simple things in life make life worth living.
8. The most cherished gifts are the ones that come from the heart, not the wallet.
Make gifts for her/him.
9. Have a night that is worth $1,000,000 dollars, but on a $10 dollar budget.
10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
11. Instead of going out on a date, plan an evening at home, turn off the lights, burn scented
candles, watch the sunset, then take a long walk to gaze at the stars.
12. Never, ever forget holidays! (The ones that the two of you make up too)
13. Do everything to make him/her happy.
14. Don't evaluate or criticize your partner.
15. Defend and respect your partner.
16. Be there for the good and the bad times.
17. Find a nice secluded spot that is only yours and take her/him there every month.
18. Call from your vacation spot just to say Hi.
19. Always ask her/him how the day was. and listen!
20. Too much of a good thing can be bad.
21. Travel more than 1 hour out of town together.
22. Dance in the rain. (Even in your best outfit)
23. Watch the sunset together.
24. Have a candlelight dinner for two at least once a year.
25. Flirt in public. (Yes, that means holding hands)
26. Cook for each other.
27. Whisper sweet nothings.
28. Always close your eyes. Staring is rude. (Oops!)
29. Share your deep dark secrets with each other. (Not all)
30. Laugh together.
31. When you say I'm sorry, look at her/him in the eyes.
32. Don't let little mistakes become big mistakes.
33. Do anything to impress her/him.
34. Go for a drive together just to get lost.
35. Make love.
36. Make sacrifices for each other.
37. ALWAYS be honest with each other.
38. Give each other pet names. (Baby!)
39. Tell her/him your fantasies. (Buttons!)
40. Tell her/him what you like and don't like.
41. Write a story about how you two met and fell in love and give it to her/him.
42. Hugs are the best medicines.
43. NEVER EVER cheat on her/him.
44. Play silly games.
45. Find out what's special to her/him and do it.
46. Spend all night thinking of 50 sweet things to do for her/him.
47. Always have a notepad and pen or some stationary with you wherever you are.
This way when you're waiting in line you can write them a quick love note.
48. During weeks when you feel you haven't had enough time with each other, send a bouquet of flowers or other gift to their work, home or school.
49. When you look into they eyes, tell her/him how you feel deep down and gently kiss their cheek.
50. Put a note in her purse telling her to meet you somewhere for lunch.
PICTURE OF THE DAY.
I'm happy chap.
Because today will be the last day of my driving probation!
Coming up, i'm going for the class 4, probably also class 5 if I CAN.
Well, since i'm here..
Here some more updates.
Work has been okay so far for me, will be making more plans to study in future.
I have been healthy as well, which also mean i'm getting plumper!
I am going to keep fit cos i dun really like the idea of ah chris getting fat. (hah.)
For -
Gf still going through interviews to find what she really wants.
Today she went for emirates's interview during morning.
She didn't got through because she didn't read up about emirates and was shocked when they asked her about the company profiles.
I wasn't too happy because it was probably something she was looking forward to.
She has choices still, like the police force and the P.S.A port and some others as well.
I think grads are poor things.
-They spend half their life studying something they dun like.
-Until they completed their schools, they gets disappointments from everywhere especially when they dun know what they want for their future.
-Some, at the end of the day still struggles to get their positions on the line and it makes pple worry of education really a necessary?
Looking at my own brother, who can't even survive a part-time job during U makes me wonder and stressed.
I hope i won't have the wrong vision of his future.
Obviously as the older one, i would like to hold on him and lift him high up..
But, for how long?
Questions and answers,..
Why can't life be more simpler?
Whatever it is, it's your future.
You hold your rights and walk it yourself.
The only thing that really matters, be happy. :)
Okay,.. i have to upload these pictures.
I asked gf's good friend for help about my dog.
He has (I think) ear infection and it's causing him to scratch and bleed.
OMG.
We tried many ways to help him, cleaning and bathing.
And the bad smell's still there.
[THE DOGGY DAY OUT TO THE CLINIC.]
Well, she got me this friend of her's who was a ex.room-mate in perth and is currently in spore.
I dun really go clinics as the pricings at somewhere was horrifying.
Her name is MS Felica Lu.
Her clinic is at Jurong Keching.
One thing abt this clinic...
It's everything like a normal clinic we go to.
There's 2 nurses at the counter attending to everyone.
And they really treat every animals there like US.
Cool right?
When it's our turn, i done some intro and told her everything i needed.
And my fear, MY DOG WILL BITE ME.
[As i was the one who trained him when he was young, i neglected alot of things that he ought to learn.
Didn't have enough time to make him understand what he CAN & CAN'T.
And by playing tag and pull is also wrong as it triggers him to be more aggressive.
Morever he was most of the time being locked at home.
We will let him walk around only when we comes home.
So to those pple who wants a pet to themselves, pls make sure you have the time to train or spend time communicating with them.
If we have temper, animals have it as well.
But of course, i'm not advising anyone to dump them away.
You can probably give them to someone who have time to care for them. :) ]
OK.
She checked here and there and luckily it wasn't so bad.
A jab was given and some medication was put into the ear.
He was a little over-weight. :(
I'm supposed to go back to her after 3 weeks.
Yawn, i think i write too much so here the picture.
As you can see, it wasn't a easy job bluffing this doggy to get in the car and my poor sister had hell.
My whole car was filled with furs, smell and salivia!
OMG.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
very overdue photos!
gf and i on my graduation day 04/07/2007.
and e other day, we went out to book cafe at martin road and as well as central, the newly opened mall at clarke quay. but it is not interesting AT ALL.
we saw the famous bungee thingie!
gf and i. the pretty and candid shots!
and...........
it is a very sad thing when you know...................
that ur gf is more obessed over the japanese mango ice cream bcos apparently she is eating and eating e entire time..
and when u try to eat some, she gets defensive and does these..
poor me. :(
very ke lian jo.
Tuesday, July 03, 2007
Dated : 03072007To : my dearest girlfriend yong.
hApPy hAPpY 08th aNnIVeRSaRy!
[CONGRATS! - You are finally graduating!]
Note : Life is wonderful when you know there's dinner prepared after a long day at work .
Monday, July 02, 2007
Dated : 02072007Christian perspectives on homosexuality.
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Rev, Dr Yap Kim Hao serves in the Free Community Church (www.freecomchurch.org) which counts many gays and lesbians as members.
He has been a pastor of the Methodist churches in Malaysia and Singapore and served as its first Asian Bishop in 1968-73.
"Homosexuality is not a prominent Biblical concern.
The earliest ethical codes of the Hebrews makes no mention of homosexual behavior.
There is nothing about it in the Ten Commandments.
The four Gospels record no saying of Jesus on the subject.
The texts that are discussed are few and far between and not even all of these are pertinent."
As Christians refer to this common source of the Bible, those who are anti-gay are quick to say that the Bible says so and then close the Book.
And the controversial issue of homosexuality is no longer discussed.
The teaching of the Bible leads to the teaching of the Church which then becomes official, and obedience is demanded.
The different perspectives arise from the differing interpretation of the words of the Bible and the teachings of the Church and its pronouncements change as we gain more knowledge and insights.
The medical sciences today acknowledge homosexuality as a sexual orientation, not a medical, psychological or psychiatric condition that can be changed therapeutically.
From my perspective, homosexuality is within the purpose of God in creation.
There is a continuum of sexual relationships from heterosexualilty to homosexuality.
God has made it possible for each individual to be unique and different and I affirm the diversity in God’s creation.
Homosexuality is a given and not a choice.
Homosexuality is therefore a gift from God to be accepted.
It is not a result of human sin or the fallen nature because of Adam.
We all have, by the grace of God, to live out the purposes of God, straight or gay, for we are all created by God.
*Check This Out *
[An article i saw at one of gf's good friend's blog.]
Celebrating Our 8th Month Anniversary @ 3rd of July.
This doll was bought to suprise gf actually but she spotted it already before the day arrived.
I left it beside the bed so that she can hug it to sleep when she stays over. =)
Check that BEFORE & AFTER pictures!
This is what i had for mine while doing shopping at queensway yesterday.
And OH YA..
~We took her motorbike there.
I am the demanding one cos gf pleaded me to drive there, as the weather is freaky, awfully hot!
But i insisted to take her ride. ;p
Not that i'm being lazy, it's more to the quality time spent being close-together thingy.
[~Heh]
Pretty?! I like. ;p
~May days grow to months, months grow to years~
haha gf is so gg to kill me cos i was previously busy with my job and i had no time to upload these pics till now!
and they are 1 mth late. gosh, she even bought the prsent for our 8th month already. gee.
made gf pose for me..
and we sent her 2 sisters to st james last sat!
so in the car..
took pics of her cos she was trying to coordinate sth for her work and i caught the serious look.
and you know wat? love is when she makes sure that you dont feel too cold or too warm in the car and you are constantly comfortable. and one more, love is taking pics with a pic-crazy gf despite her weariness at 4am. :)))
like this!
im loved. :)
jo.