Wednesday, October 11, 2006

Dated : 11112006 - OCTOBER
Time: 1234pm.

It finally just rained today.
For days/weeks it seems like spore is gong through bad drought or something.
I would hide at my comfy work place or in my car just to hide off from the extreme heat. (PHEW)

I have been down on a bad cough, flu but with a healthy diet still.
I can still take up to 4 meals a day without problems.
Someone always tell me that if you are happy, you will finish up everything in your bowl.
We have no choice but to believe that because i have tried it and it's always amazing how ah chris is able to finish up her food. ;p

Met shane the day before for coffee with DOC at my place.
From there i think she might be facing lotsa problems like feeding an expensive mouth gf and business isn't smooth.
She is solely supporting 3 vehicles per month and a few workers to feed.
She just had an operation and will be doing the rest, i suppose.. next year bah.
To me, she has the abilties to bring income to her Company but she was also a big spender.
Just the other time, i spotted her with a gold card. (Spending future money, get what i am saying?)
My theory is still the same, unless i have a special need for applying or i will never do something like that.
Not that i feel she can't afford just that she admitted she can't make ends meet every end of the month.
Then, why do it?
Because your gf is special and that the need for a card? I never did ask her but that's just humans.
At the end of the day when you can't afford to pay off credit company, the consequences is harsh.
I have seen that situation before and i really hope everything work out for her.
(Don't be reckless of what's making you proud, always think properly if there's a need.)

Bryan's out of job again.
Called her almost everyda to see if she's looking out for a new job.
Tired and defeated, i really have no idea what right and wrong.
Knowing the fact that she can never appreciate and do something i could be at least proud of, my persistance is a total madness from the start.
One fine day if i were to see her begging on the street, should i spat at her?
I know for sure mine will be smooth in future, i could never include her inside.
She's a dreadful good-for-nothing that my family members could never ever accept her as part of us.
"You are what you are. "
"You hold your future in your hands and you create your own world."
"Don't blame others if nobody cares for you or despite you, only yourself.."

DOC's birthday coming.
15 OCT is her birthday chalet, 23 OCT is her actual birthday.(hmmm? dump her to the sea since she can swim very well then.)
I am hesitating to for the chalet on a few points.
1st, i don't know her friends nor her relatives and i think i'm too unti-social. ;p
2nd, i don't really think i wanna see miss serene.
3rd, birthday girl is supposely to be busy and i do not wish to distract her by moving here and there. (really.)
Lastly, i have work the following day. (Lame loh.) ;p
Have a BASHING 21th BIRTHDAY.
Thanks for telling me that you wanna intro ur friends to me, i really appreciate. :)

During this many weeks, we had exchanged many words and questions.
A gap of 5 years and 5 years questions all for me, i felt stumped.
Ever understood how it feels to have all answers and unanswered qns for 5 years?
For an unstable condition i'm having now, i'm still not ready for more and commitments.
The very last time took me for about a year or so & i did some savings and half way through quitting smoking.
I feel i'm getting worse.
Didn't wanna dress up at all.
Didn't wanna wear my new shoes frequently.
Didn't wanna style my hair anymore.
Didn't wanna keep my clothes in order or neat anymore.
Didn't wanna watch anymore tv dramas.
Didn't wanna read anymore books.
LIFELESS BODY.
What was i thinking, wishing?
I have not any idea, seriously.
Maybe i'm poisoned, totally cursed.
I'm thankful that DOC's always there for me, shared good and bad.
Give me more time and i will keep myself up-right.

Friday, October 06, 2006

Thursday, October 05, 2006

Dated : 05102006

Mending a broken heart
Feeling broken hearted is just about the worst pain in the world. It can also seem endless - luckily it isn't.

So, you're nursing a broken heart?
What you have to remember is that you can get through it.
Ask around and you'll find that loads of people you know have had their hearts broken.
Most of them are OK now.
And one day you'll be OK too.
Better than that you'll be fine.
But right now, it's hard to believe that.

First love
Getting over your first love is incredibly difficult.
This is because we all think our first, real, wonderful, romantic love will last forever.
Funnily enough, we don't look at our friends and their early relationships and think that they will last forever.
And we know statistically that most people do not fall in love at 17 or thereabouts and stay with that person for life.
But knowing these things does not seem to stop us from feeling that our particular first love is golden and timeless and unlike any other.
So when it ends it's shattering.
The only comfort is that this romance has shown you how much love you have to give.
And people with love to give are attractive individuals that others are drawn to.
One day, you'll look back at your first love and realise that it was a great dress rehearsal for subsequent relationships.
But you're unlikely to feel that right now.

Treat yourself gently
You can feel so 'knocked' after your heart is broken that you feel seriously ill, or as if you've been in a car crash.
So, treat yourself as if you are recovering from a bad illness or a road traffic accident.
Let other people care for you, too.
Get as much sleep as possible.
Eat lovely foods.
Convalesce.
And allow yourself to cry - even if you're a bloke.
It's horrible at the time, but you'll feel better afterwards.
All in all, take life gently - you've had a shock, and your mind and body need time to get over it.

Pep up your social life
Your friends will help you get over it. Soon, they'll be asking you to come out in a group to the cinema or the pub or whatever. At first you won't be in the mood, but soon you'll realize that there are some bonuses to being single again. In fact, you'll find that this is a good time to do stuff that you didn't do with your ex. So now you can go to the sorts of films that you like, or you can listen to your type of music, or go on your type of holiday.

Look back to look forwards
Once you're over the stage of feeling shocked and ill, try to look back at your relationship as it really was, not through the rose-tinted spectacles you've worn for so long.
Write a list of the things that you don't miss about your ex.
At first you'll be thinking that you loved everything about this person, but you didn't.
What about those awful jokes, the rows, how you always had to make the arrangements if anything was to get done, the times when your ex put you down or made you feel stupid or how they didn't like your best mate?
There are always elements to our past loves that weren't right, and this is a good time to focus on them.

Starting again
Sometimes when our hearts are broken we want to find someone new to love us as soon as possible.
This is natural - but unwise.
Your best bet is to embrace your single life wholeheartedly for six months or so.
Obviously you may end up having sex with other people - but do make sure it's safe sex. However, your emotions are not going to settle for quite a while, so have fun, but don't go looking for anything else serious until you're happy without your ex.
You'll know you're getting over your heartache when you can get through a whole day without thinking about them.

Prescription for a Broken Heart
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Being heartbroken is a pain that no one can understand until they have experienced it for themselves.
You obviously have, therefore are aware of how fragile your heart is right now.
Healing a broken heart will take time, but is not impossible, though it may feel that way at the time.
It is never an easy process to go through, but with the right prescription, you will be on your way to recovery and happiness again.

The first thing you should keep in mind is that it is okay to feel sad and grieve about what happened and that you are not stupid for doing so.
It is perfectly normal to feel sad and cry after a break up.
You have invested most of your time and all of your love and interest into your ex-partner; therefore will go through a sad and painful withdrawal.
It is notable that you not grieve all on your own.
Sure, there will be times when you will just want to be alone and undisturbed.
However, it is important that you talk to your friends and family about it.
Talking about it is not only healthy, but will mend your heart quicker because you will release the thoughts and facts that are hurting you so much.
Seeking professional advice will be a great help to you as well because your mind will open up and see new perspectives and understandings of what happened.
It will help you gather your strength, pick yourself up, and find the happiness you deserve to have.

Accepting the fact that you and your ex-partner are no longer together is a necessity if you are going to start mending your broken heart.
If you catch yourself unable to function due to constantly thinking about your ex or repeatedly calling or visiting him or her for another chance, then chances are you are suffering from love addiction and should seek counseling.
Discontinuing a serious relationship is emotionally challenging and can drive you to do things that are unhealthy for your self-being.
To avoid entering such hazardous areas, keep yourself occupied.
Go out with your friends and family to help get your mind off the break up.
It is best to spend as less time alone as you can in the first few weeks of your breakup so that your emotions can slowly and patiently form back into their normal pattern.

Fight the thoughts that tell you that you are a failure and are to blame for the end of your relationship.
When a relationship ends it means that the two of you were no longer compatible and that always takes two, not just you.
Instead of beating yourself up over what has transpired, examine your ex-relationship by listing the things you enjoyed most about it and then the things that disappointed you and what you believe really caused the breakup.
Look at the relationship as a learning experience and an opportunity to improve your relationship skills, and a way to realize what you truly need and want from a romantic relationship.
Learning to forgive yourself and your ex-lover will speed up the healing process for the reason that you will feel more peaceful and calm about it.
Hating your ex will only build up tension and stress in your life, causing your emotions to slow down from getting back to order.
One way to avoid bitterness against your ex-partner is to look at the breakup as a favor. Appreciate their honesty of no longer wanting to pursue the relationship, instead of giving you high hopes for a possible future together.
It is always an advantage to exit a relationship that had no chances to survive than to be misled.
Conquer your fear of being alone.
You need to help yourself understand that it is not abnormal to be on your own and that your values come from who are rather than whom you are with.
Teach yourself that there is more to life than romantic relationships by spending quality time with your friends and family.
Learn more about whom the other people in your life are and introduce more of yourself to them as well.
Go out and do things together and treat yourself to something you enjoy, whether it is your favorite restaurant, shopping, going to the movies, or anything else.
Learning to you be your own best friend will not only improve your relationship with yourself, but with others as well.
As you begin to discover the other beauties of life and yourself, you will become more stable and stronger to face anything that crosses your path, such as a new relationship in the future.

Before you consider entering another relationship, take a step back and ask yourself why you want to do so.
Make sure that you are not entering a new relationship on a rebound.
This will only leave you with unfinished emotions and you will never have closure from your former relationship.
Never begin a new relationship because you are afraid of being on your own, or feel the need to just be in a relationship.
Form a relationship with someone new because you feel strong and secure on your very own and feel that you are ready to attempt a new romance.
Take it one step at a time and keep in mind of what your needs and desires are from a person and observe closely to see if they show signs of the qualities you are looking for.
As soon as you notice that he or she is not, then get out of it as soon as possible.
Learning from your previous relationships will come in very handy because you will be able to prevent similar situations in the future, leading you to meeting the people who fit your description of a perfect partner.

Lastly, remind yourself that love is a wonderful feeling and experience and should not be generalized based on your past experiences.
Do not use facts about your ex as a way to judge new people in your life.
Leave your past behind you and focus on moving ahead.
Get to know new people for who they are, not by comparing them to others, what they are not, or what they could be.
Once you have observed their personality, values and everything else, trust yourself to make the right decisions without constantly doubting yourself.
If you wish to try having a new relationship, then do so.
If you do not however, then do not feel guilty to kindly walk away from the situation.
You would be doing both you and the other a person a huge favor and saving time and emotions from being hurt.
You have nothing to fear or worry about.
After all, there will always be one person who will always love you, appreciate who you are and be there for you. . .
and that is YOU.

THE LOVE QUIZ: Are you afraid to commit?
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Are either or both of you guilty of any of the following:

1. Being overly critical of the other regarding his or her suitability as a mate and/or of the relationship as a whole.

2. Deliberately offending or creating contention, thus sabotaging the relationship, even if it seems to be working well.
An example of this might be consistently showing up late for dates, being passive during situations that call for emotional action, or bringing up subjects in which there is known disagreement or discord.

3. Assuming a deer-in-the-headlights look of terror if one of you mentions how great things are going or how perfect you are for each other.

4. Maintaining an overwhelming preoccupation with the concept that true love, or basically anything, is supposed to last forever.

5. Experiencing anxieties or premonitions of failing at the relationship because of experiences as a child.

6. Fearing loss of freedom or autonomy, and a sense of losing a separate identity distinct from the relationship.

7. Experiencing inability to calmly discuss the possibility of living together or getting married after several months of monogamous dating.

8. Levying global indictments of marriage, family, and/or the concept of finding the perfect mate: "There is no such thing as happily married";
"Everybody gets divorced"; "Women are sexy until you put that ring on their finger."

9. Falling for partners who are unavailable, married, live a long distance away or have similar reservations about commitment.

10. Manifesting other forms of commitment phobia, such as an ongoing inability to remain at jobs or at the same residence or even maintain long-term friendships (sometimes described as rootlessness).

How did you score?
If you answered yes to any of these, you might be a commitment-phobic. It's time to start a conversation about what each of you wants from your relationship.

Dated : 05102006

Overcome Your Shy Attitude
Shyness can be a real problem, especially in social situations, where it can block you from demonstrating your full potential.
It can heighten your self consciousness, and make you doubt every little thing about you.
Here are some tips to help you overcome this:

Trial and error.
Millions of people are affected by shyness across the globe.
There is not one 'cure' for them all.
Therefore, you have to rely on being flexible and trying different things that can perhaps help you overcome it.
This, along with a desire to resolve it, is enough to get you in the right direction.

Conversation is key.
To overcome your shyness, you need to improve your conversation skills.
If you can talk smoothly, and stay focused, you have won half the battle already.
Practice what you would say and have topics of conversation in the back of your mind ready to be explored.

Start the conversation.
Following up on the last point, you need to be the person that initiates the conversations.
It is a great way to get your feet wet, and jump right into the mix of things, thus a good way to overcome your shyness directly at the beginning.
Anything can be a conversation starter, such as the weather, sports, the news, etc.

If too big a problem, talk about it.
If you have a serious problem with shyness, and you completely freeze and become quiet when in such a situation, a good way to overcome this would be to discuss your shyness openly. Remember this as a 'way out' in the back of your head.
If you freeze and got nothing to say, talk about your shyness.
Most people are understanding about shyness, and may even relate to it.
It is a good ice breaker, and a clever way to overcome it.

Reward system.
Reward yourself each time you make progress and successful go through a situation where your shyness is tested.
This will provide you with the proper motivation to keep going, and never give up.
:)

Wednesday, October 04, 2006

Dated : 04102006
(Day 44)

As you can see, i haven't been writing at my blog for long.
Wonder how much i could write these days.
Life has only started to pick up after the big-hell of debts.
I have my own car, own space but was never happy.
Yes, i created a dark pit and stay seated at my own risk.
But who could have know how it was for a living like mine?

My childhood was never bright, restain from doing this and that.
I was never a good kid who will sit down quietly doing my homework, even teens-hood.
I was always caned and punished for my siblings's doings.
Every 2 days nights, my always-angry grandfather will be stalking us with the cane and we hide everywhere you could imagine.
Was always locked at home while others always have the freedom to run about.
I like going frequently to the monsoon drain at the end of the alley, though it's smelly.
Neigbours always laughed at us for being filthy living in private estates, we can't be bothered.
Who will know the happiness we had as kids with only innocence?

I remembered the 1st time my mother bought the 1st goldfish and i was over-joyed.
We learned how to take care of it but it still died then she give up learning how to keep it surving.
I dun blame her but it was my 1st fish and my 1st love-hobby which no one bother to know.
I learned gardening from her as well, we are always caring and checking on her plants on weekends.
It always a blessing when you realise ways to spend quality time with ur mother.
Up til today, in office she still do gardening without fail to water them, i admire that patience.

I spent almost 12 years staying with such a family.
2 sets of semi-d, four apartments with fou different families.
I used to admired my cousins with what they have, books, toys, bicycles and we have nothing.
As the curtain of my innocence drawn, i realised it was all my dad's doing.
With 4 kids to look after and a difficult husband, she often took to abuse us, mostly me.
I hated her and my dad, because i couldn't understand nor felt pain all the while.

Teens life is also difficult when i have not much friends and guys took the liking to bully me.
I was not doing well in my studies either but i took liking to all sports and art lessons.
Every single year, without fail, my mum have been in and out ofthe principal's office.
Was often grounded without knowing or findin out what when wrong.
That point of time was difficult for her as well and she/dad was rarely home.
I choose to tell and write in a diary, not one but many.
Before 18yrs, i got so sick of frequent bullying and joined my friends for so-called protection.
Fire spreaded like wind, the 3th day after that..
Everyone disappeared the moment i appears, changed their tone.
Why will pple change so fast?
Was it fear? Was it an acknowledge?

Down the year, i was enjoying life in school and i make the point for pple to remember my name.
18 that year, i ran away from home, disgusted at my mother for slappin me and insulting my friends.
3 days later, i was found and i locked myself in my room for 7 days.
After a hard scolding for my elder sister, i woke from my foolish dream and was down to heart guilty for upsetting my own mother.
Quited school and worked my ass eveywhere but with parents.
I was in and out of the company 2 times, the last time was after a good talk with my elder sister.
More hardships and pain just begin at that time. ~

Ever know how much promises meant to a kid?
Ever know how it feels to be always away from my feelings?
Ever felt painful yorself whe you hitted me like never before?
Ever thought how bad freaked out i was when you locked me into that cupbroad?
Ever asked why i couldn't concentrate when you want me to study?
Ever asked why i always spent nights alone talking to empty space?
These are the questions hovering like forever but i had finally managed to put it all down.
I will never hate them nor be nasty.
These are parts of growing up.
I had the hardest time since young but if i can choose to forget all, it's the biggest thing.
I know many could not ever understand why i made this decision.
Dun bother to hate or think back why abt certain things, understand what's happening before you finalize.
All mothers in this world spent months having pain and discomfort just to deliver you to this world.
My mother had 12 hours of labour pain before i came out and i am truly sorry for the pain.
Upon knowing this, please understand their pain as well.
Nobody in this world could be more important than, mother. :)

Dated : 04102006

-Are you tired of being the nice guy/girl while everyone else around you is being a jerk?

-Are you tired of being nice to people who aren't nice to you?

-Are you tired of being taken advantage of?

-Are there nice people you can't stand, but you don't have the guts to tell them to go away?

-Are there people you don't like and you just want to be rude just for the heck of it?

HOW TO BE MEAN GUIDE!
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Roll your eyes when someone talks to you.
That is disrespectful to them.
You want to convey that you don't want to listen to them.

Yawn constantly when someone is talking to you.
That tells them they are boring you.
Even Better: If you constantly yawn loudly.

Get up and leave during a conversation.
Again, that's disrespect that no one will like.
Tell them they are boring you and be very nasty about it.

Be preoccupied with other things while someone is talking to you.
After someone has finished talking, say "what did you say?"
Repeat as many times as necessary, they'll soon get the hint.

If they complain about your being rude, then say "I know you are, but what am I?"
It will make them angry and after awhile they won't have a comeback.

Talk on your cell phone while someone is talking to you.
In fact, take out your cell phone and start calling someone while the other person is talking to you.
Answer your cell phone when it rings and talk loudly (if possible), tell the person on your cell phone that you're not talking to anyone important, but you can talk to them.
That will really make someone mad at you.

Tell someone to jump off a cliff.
They will never talk to you again.

Throw a "negative compliment" at someone.
Say "I love your style, you have the street walker look going on," or "I like your outfit.
You seem to have the 'I'm-a-bum' look going.
Very nice."
That will make them angry.
NOTE: You'll also elicit a response, so just make sure you're prepared for the aftermath.

Interrupt them every chance you get.
Make it so they don't have a chance to get involved in the conversation.
Be a conversation hog.

Insult them.
Use words like stupid, idiot, moron, low-life, simpleton, etc.
Even Better: If you can use them all in one sentence.
Use phrases like "I bet your parents must be proud (sarcastically),"
"You are the low-life of society,"
"I pity the fool who procreated you," etc.
NOTE: Just be prepared for any response these comments might bring you.

Disrespect their parents, kids, or spouse.
NOTE: Don't be surprised if you get punched for it.

Insult whatever they take pride in.
If they think they are good at fishing, tell them they're not.
If they're proud of their education, tell them they should ask for their money back because they didn't learn anything.
You get the picure.

HOW TO LOSE A DATE: WOMAN GUIDE!
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Tell her you jumped at the chance to go out with her because you've never dated someone "beneath" you before.

Tell her you saw someone on TV who looked just like her, and her name was Miss Piggy.

Ask her if she's a stripper.
If she doesn't get mad, but asks why, tell her because you went to a strip joint last week and saw someone who looked like her.
Even Better: If you insist she's the stripper you saw at the strip joint.

Talk to her condescendingly and make over-generalized comments about women.
Keep asking her if she wants to go to a strip club on your next date.
Even Better: Insist that she goes or there won't be a next date.

Tell her you're happy to go out with her because you're tired of dating pretty women.

Start talking on your cell phone for several minutes at a time and constantly make phone calls.
Interrupt her a lot.
Even Better: Interrupt her to tell her how lucky she is to go out with you.

Make phone calls to your friends and tell them how you wish you were hanging with them right now.

Always find a way to steer the conversation back to you. All you want to talk about is you, you, you.
Make her think you're self-abosorbed.

Tell her you're looking for a woman who will cook, clean and pick up after you.
Plus, work full-time and take care of the kids' every need.
Then, proceed to ask her if she can cook.

Tell her you're a mamma's boy.

Tell her you still live at home and have no plans of moving out.

Tell her you "love" her and ask her if she feels the same.
Saying "I love you" on a first date will send them running.

Dig in your nose, fart, and burp a lot. Women don't like disgusting pigs.

Tell her you didn't have anything better to do, so you decided to go out with her.
It tells her that she's not first on your list of important things.

Tell her you like women who pay for their own food and drink. Even Better: Tell her you like women who can pay for your food and drink.

Tell her she looks fat.
Even Better: Tell her you like a woman with a little pouch, then proceed to grab her stomach. NOTE: You might get punched in the process.

Talk about your ex a lot.
Tell her how good your ex treated you and how you'll never find anyone else like her.
Even Better: Tell her she'll never measure up to your ex girlfriend.

Ask her what she does for a living, then proceed to insult the profession.
For example, if she says she's a poet, tell her most poets are boring and will never succeed in life.
If she says she's a writer, tell her most writers you know are low-lives who live in their parent's basement.

Stare at her chest and say, "Whoa, what an ironing board!"

Tuesday, October 03, 2006

Dated : 03102006.

Stress - Symptoms, Treatment and Prevention
Definition of Stress
Hans Selye, M.D., a recognized expert in the field, has defined stress as a "nonspecific response of the body to a demand."

Description of Stress
Without stress, life would be dull and unexciting.
Stress adds flavor, challenge and opportunity to life.
Too much stress, however, can seriously affect your physical and mental well-being.
A major challenge in today's stress-filled world is to make the stress in your life work for you instead of against you.
During a stressful situation, the brain signals the release of stress hormones.
These chemical substances trigger a series of responses that gives the body extra energy: blood-sugar levels rise, the heartbeat speeds up and blood pressure increases.
The muscles tense for action.
The blood supply is diverted away from the gut to the extremities to help the body deal with the situation at hand.

Stress is with us all the time.
It comes from mental or emotional activity, as well as physical activity.
It is unique and personal to each of us.
So personal, in fact, that what may be relaxing to one person may be stressful to another.
For example, if you are an executive who likes to keep busy all the time, "taking it easy" at the beach on a beautiful day may feel extremely frustrating, nonproductive and upsetting.
You may be emotionally distressed from "doing nothing."
Too much emotional stress can cause physical illness, such as high blood pressure, ulcers or even heart disease.
Physical stress from work or exercise is not likely to cause such ailments.
The important issue is learning how our bodies respond to these demands.
When stress becomes prolonged or particularly frustrating, it can become harmful - causing distress or "bad stress."
Recognizing the early signs of distress and then doing something about them can make an important difference in the quality of your life and may actually influence your survival.

Stress and Disease
Because the stress response couples physiological and emotional responses, it seems probable that stress can translate frustration into physical illness, but the precise mechanisms by which this occurs are not known.
In some situations, as with tension headaches or upset stomachs, the connections appear fairly clear.
On the other hand, both headaches and bellyaches can occur with no emotional provocation whatsoever.
The chain of causation is even less clear when it comes to more chronic and serious conditions, such as heart disease, hypertension, diabetes and cancer.
The list of diseases linked to stress is almost endless, and includes asthma, allergies, rheumatoid arthritis, ulcers, ulcerative colitis and migraine headaches, among many others.
An important distinction that needs to be made.
Any of these chronic illnesses can be made harder to bear by a stress-laden situation or an emotionally inadequate response on the part of the patient.
On the other hand, it is no longer possible to credit older theories that specific emotional experiences or reactions actually cause these various diseases.
On the whole, it seems most likely that stress plays a non-specific role in disease by throwing off the body's natural ability to heal itself.

Self Care
When stress occurs, it is important to recognize and deal with it.
Here are some suggestions for ways to handle stress.
As you begin to understand more about how stress affects you as an individual, you will come up with your own ideas on how to ease the tension.

Try physical activity.
When you are nervous, angry or upset, release the pressure through exercise or physical activity.
Running, walking, playing tennis or working in your garden, are just some of the activities you might try.
Physical exercise will relieve that "up tight" feeling, relax you, and turn the frowns into smiles. Remember, your body and your mind work together.


Share your stress.
It helps to talk to someone about your concerns and worries.
Perhaps a friend, family member, teacher or counselor, can help you see your problem in a different light.
If you feel your problem is serious, you might seek professional help from a psychologist, psychiatrist or social worker.
Knowing when to ask for help may help to avoid more serious problems later.

Know your limits.
If a problem is beyond your control and cannot be changed at the moment, don't fight the situation.
Learn to accept what is for now, until such time when you can change it.

Take care of yourself.
Get enough rest and eat well.
If you are irritable and tense from lack of sleep, or if you are not eating correctly, you will have less ability to deal with stressful situations.
If stress repeatedly keeps you from sleeping, you should ask your doctor for help.

Make time for fun.
Schedule time for both work and recreation.
Play can be just as important to your well-being as work; you need a break from your daily routine to just relax and have fun.

Be a participant.
One way to keep from getting bored, sad, and lonely is to go where it's all happening.
Sitting alone can make you feel frustrated.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, get involved.
Offer your services to a neighborhood or volunteer organizations.
Help yourself by helping other people.
Get involved in the world and the people around you, and you will find they will be attracted to you.
You're on your way to making new friends and enjoying new activities.

Check off your tasks.
Trying to take care of everything at once can seem overwhelming, and as a result, you may not accomplish anything.
Instead, make a list of what tasks you have to do and do them one at a time, checking them off as they're completed.
Give priority to the most important ones and do those first.

Must you always be right?
Do other people upset you - particularly when they don't do things your way?
Try cooperation instead of confrontation; it's better than fighting and always being "right."
A little give and take on both sides will reduce the strain and make you both feel more comfortable.

It's OK to cry.
A good cry can be a healthy way to bring relief to your anxiety, and it might even prevent a headache or other physical consequence.
Take some deep breaths; they also release tension.

Create a quiet scene.
You can't always get away, but you can "dream the impossible dream."
A quiet country scene, painted mentally or on canvas, can take you out of the turmoil of a stressful situation.
Change the scene by reading a good book or playing beautiful music to create a sense of peace and tranquillity.

Avoid self-medication.
Although you can use drugs to relieve stress temporarily, drugs do not remove the conditions that caused the stress in the first place.
Drugs, in fact, may be habit-forming and create more stress than they relieve.
They should be taken only on the advice of your doctor.

The best strategy for avoiding stress is to learn how to relax.
Unfortunately, many people try to relax at the same pace that they lead the rest of their lives. For a while, tune out your worries about time, productivity, and "doing it right."
You will find satisfaction in just being, without striving.
Find activities that give you pleasure and that are good for your mental and physical well-being. Forget about always winning and focus on relaxation, enjoyment, and health.
Be good to yourself.

Monday, October 02, 2006

Dated : 02102006

Interesting Facts :
-If you yelled for 8 years, 7 months and 6 days you would have produced enough sound energy to heat one cup of coffee.

-If you farted consistently for 6 years and 9 months, enough gas is produced to create the energy of an atomic bomb.

-The human heart creates enough pressure when it pumps out to the body to squirt blood 30 feet.

-A pig's orgasm lasts 30 minutes.

-A cockroach will live nine days without its head before it starves to death. (Creepy.)

-Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories a hour

-The male praying mantis cannot copulate while its head is attached to its body. The female initiates sex by ripping the male's head off.

-The flea can jump 350 times its body length. It's like a human jumping the length of a football field.

-The catfish has over 27,000 taste buds.

-Some lions mate over 50 times a day.

-Butterflies taste with their feet.

-The strongest muscle in the body is the tongue.

-Right-handed people live, on average, nine years longer than left-handed people.

-Elephants are the only animals that cannot jump.

-A cat's urine glows under a black light.

-An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

-Starfish have no brains

-Polar bears are left-handed.

-Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.

-Dragonflies can travel up to 60mph.

-Americans will spend more on cat food this year than baby food.

-Coca-cola was originally green.

-Every day more money is printed for Monopoly than for the US Treasury.

-Smartest dogs:
1) border collie;
2)poodle;
3)golden retriever;
Dumbest dog: Afghan

-Hawaiian alphabet has 12 letters.

-Men can read smaller print than women; women can hear better.

-Chances that an American lives within 50 miles of where they grew up:1 in 2

-Amount American Airlines saved in 1987 by eliminating one olive from each salad served in first class: $40,000

-City with the most Rolls Royce's per capita: Hong Kong

-State with the highest percentage of people who walk to work: Alaska

-Chances of a white Christmas in New York: 1 in 4

-Portion of US annual rainfall that falls in April: 1/12

-Percentage of Africa that is wilderness: 28%

-Percentage of North America that is wilderness: 38%

-Estimated percentage of American adults who go on a diet each year: 44%

-Barbie's measurements if she were life size: 39-23-33

-Average number of days a West German goes without washing his underwear: 7

-Percentage of Americans who say that God has spoken to them: 36%

-Percentage of Americans who regularly attend religious services: 43%

-City with the highest per capita viewership of television evangelists: Washington DC

-Percentage of American men who say they would marry the same woman if they had it to do all over again: 80%

-Percentage of American women who say they would marry the same man: 50%

-Percentage of men who say they are happier after their divorce or separation: 58%

-Percentage of women who say they are happier after their divorce or separation: 85%

-Number of different family relationships for which Hallmark makes cards: 105

-Cost of raising a medium-size dog to the age of eleven: $6,400

-Average number of people airborne over the US any given hour: 61,000

-Percentage of Americans who have visited Disneyland or Disney World: 70%

-Average life span of a major league baseball: 7 pitches.

-Portion of ice cream sold that is vanilla: 1/3

-Portion of potatoes sold that are French fried: 1/3

-Percentage of Americans that eat at McDonalds each day: 7

-Percentage of bird species that are monogamous: 90%

-Percentage of mammal species that are: 3%

-Number of US states that claim test scores in their elementary schools are above national average: 50

-Portion of Harvard students who graduate with honors: 4/5

-Chances that a burglary in the US will be solved: 1 in 7.

-Portion of land in the US owned by the government: 1/3

-Only President to remain a bachelor: James Buchanon

-Only first lady to carry a loaded revolver: Eleanor Roosevelt

-Only President to win a Pulitzer: John F. Kennedy for "Profiles in Courage"

-Only President awarded a patent: Abe Lincoln, for a system of buoying vessels over shoals

-Only food that does not spoil: honey

-Only person to win $64,000 Challenge and $64,000 Question: Dr. Joyce Brothers(subject is boxing)

-Only bird that can fly backwards: Hummingbird

-Only continent without reptiles or snakes: Antarctica

-Only animal besides human that can get sunburn: pig

-Ostriches stick their heads in the sand to look for water.

-An eagle can kill a young deer and fly away with it.

-In the Caribbean there are oysters that can climb trees.

-Polar bears are left-handed.

-Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair.

-Eskimos never gamble.

-The world's youngest parents were 8 and 9 and lived in China in 1910.

-The youngest Pope was 11 years old.

-Mark Twain didn't graduate from elementary school.

-Proportional to their weight, men are stronger than horses.

-Pilgrims ate popcorn at the first Thanksgiving dinner.

-Your nose and ears never stop growing.

-Jupiter is bigger than all the other planets in our solar system combined.

-Hot water is heavier than cold.

-The parachute was invented by da Vinci in 1515.

-They have square watermelons in Japan. They stack better.

-Cream does not weigh as much as milk.

-Starfish have eight eyes--one at the end of each leg.

-Iceland consumes more Coca-cola per capita than any other nation.

-First novel ever written on a typewriter was "Tom Sawyer."

-There are more collect calls on Father's Day than any other day of the year.

-Heinz ketchup leaving the bottle travels at 25 miles per year.

-It is possible to lead a cow upstairs but not downstairs.

-Men get hiccups more often than woman.

-Armadillos can be housebroken.

-Ants stretch when they wake up in the morning!

-It's against the law to have a pet dog in Iceland!

-Thomas Edison, light bulb inventor, was afraid of the dark!

-Dolphins sleep with one eye open!

-About 3000 years ago, most Egyptians died by the time they were 30!

-A sneeze travels out your mouth at over 600 mph! Wow!

-The average person has over 1,460 dreams a year!

-Lightning strikes about 6,000 times per minute on this planet!

-Owls are the only birds who can see the color blue!

-A jellyfish is 95 percent water!

-The elephant is the only mammal that can't jump!

-The penguin is the only bird who can swim, but not fly!

-America once issued a 5-cent bill!

-Like fingerprints, everyone's tongue print is different!

-Fortune cookies were actually invented in America, in 1918, by Charles Jung!

-A giraffe can clean its ears with its 21-inch tongue!

-Chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying!

-Bats always turn left when exiting a cave!

-Fingernails grow nearly 4 times faster than toenails!

-You blink about 84,000,000 times a year!

-In England, in the 1880's, "Pants" was considered a dirty word!

-A toothpick is the object most often choked on by Americans!

-Every 45 seconds, a house catches on fire in the United States!

-The sun is 330,330 times larger than the earth!

-A hummingbird weighs less than a penny!

-The Earth weighs around 6,588,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 tons!

-A cockroach can live several weeks with its head cut off!

-The most used letter in the English alphabet is 'E', and 'Q' is the least used!

-Dogs and cats, like humans, are either right of left handed...or is that paws?!

-The opposite sides of a dice cube always add up to seven!

-Men are 6 times more likely to be struck by lighting than women!

-Of all the words in the English language, the word set has the most definitions!

-Bulls are colorblind, therefore will usually charge at a matador's waving cape no matter what color it is -- be it red or neon yellow!

-Apples are more efficient than caffeine in keeping people awake in the mornings!

-Smelling bananas and/or green apples (smelling, not eating) can help you lose weight!

-After eating, a housefly regurgitates its food and then eats it again!

-All of the clocks in Pulp Fiction are stuck on 4:20.

-On a Canadian two dollar bill, the flag flying over the Parliament building is an American flag.

-If she were life size, Barbie's measurements are: 39-23-33.

-No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver or purple.

-"Dreamt" is the only English word that ends in the letters "mt".

-All 50 states are listed across the top of the Lincoln Memorial on the back of the $5 bill.

-Almonds are members of the peach family.

-Winston Churchill was born in a ladies' room during a dance.

-Maine is the only state whose name is just one syllable.

-There are only four words in the English language which end in"-dous": tremendous, horrendous, stupendous, and hazardous.

-The longest place-name still in use is: Taumatawhakatangihangakoauauotamateaturipukakapikimaungahoronukupokai- wenuakitanatahu, a New Zealand hill.( uh huh !)

-Los Angeles's full name is "El Pueblo de Nuestra Senora la Reina de los Angeles de Porciuncula" and can be abbreviated to 3.63% of its size, "L.A."

-A cat has 32 muscles in each ear.

-An ostrich's eye is bigger than it's brain.

-Tigers have striped skin, not just striped fur.

-In most advertisements, including newspapers, the time displayed on a watch is 10:10.

-Al Capone's business card said he was a used furniture dealer.

-The only real person to be a Pez head was Betsy Ross.

-The Ramses brand condom is named after the great pharaoh Ramses II who fathered over 160 children.

-The characters Bert and Ernie on Sesame Street were named after Bert the cop and Ernie the taxi driver in Frank Capra's "Its A Wonderful Life"

-A goldfish has a memory span of three seconds.

-A dime has 118 ridges around the edge.

-On an American one-dollar bill, there is an owl in the upper left-hand corner of the "1" encased in the "shield" and a spider hidden in the front upper right-hand corner.

-The giant squid has the largest eyes in the world.

-Who's that playing the piano on the "Mad About You" theme? Why it's Paul Reiser himself.

-The male gypsy moth can "smell" the virgin female gypsy moth from 1.8 miles away.

-The name for Oz in the "Wizard of Oz" was thought up when the creator, Frank Baum, looked at his filing cabinet and saw A-N, and O-Z, hence "Oz."

-The microwave was invented after a researcher walked by a radar tube and a chocolate bar melted in his pocket.

-Mr. Rogers is an ordained minister.

-John Lennon's first girlfriend was named Thelma Pickles.

-The average person falls asleep in seven minutes.

-There are 336 dimples on a regulation golf ball.

-"Stewardesses" is the longest word that is typed with only the left hand.

-Ben and Jerry's send the waste from making ice cream to local pig farmers to use as feed. Pigs love the stuff, except for one flavor: Mint Oreo.

-A pregnant goldfish is called a twit.

-Armadillos have four babies at a time and they are always all the same sex. Armadillos are the only animal besides humans that can get leprosy.

-Reindeer like to eat bananas.

-111,111,111 x 111,111,111 = 12,345,678,987,654,321

-Rene Descartes came up with the theory of coordinate geometry by looking at a fly walk across a tiled ceiling.
-If a statue in the park of a person on a horse has both front legs in the air, the person died in battle; if the horse has one front leg in the air, the person died as a result of wounds received in battle; if the horse has all four legs on the ground, the person died of natural causes.

-Ballroom dancing is a major at Brigham Young University.

-Some biblical scholars believe that Aramaic (the language of the ancient Bible) did not contain an easy way to say 'many things' and used a term which has come down to us as 40. This means that when the bible in many places refers to '40 days,' they meant many days.

-No word in the English language rhymes with month, orange, silver, and purple.

-Clans of long ago that wanted to get rid of their unwanted people without killing them used to burn their houses down - hence the expression 'to get fired.'

-Canada is an Indian word meaning 'Big Village'.

-There are two credit cards for every person in the United States.

-Only two people signed the Declaration of Independence on July 4th, John Hancock and Charles Thomson. Most of the rest signed on August 2, but the last signature wasn't added until 5 years later.

'-I am.' is the shortest complete sentence in the English language.

-The term 'the whole 9 yards' came from WWII fighter pilots in the South Pacific. When arming their airplanes on the ground, the .50 caliber machine gun ammo belts measured exactly 27 feet, before being loaded into the fuselage. If the pilots fired all their ammo at a target, it got 'the whole 9 yards.'

-The original story from Tales of 1001 Arabian Nights begins, 'Aladdin was a little Chinese boy.'

-Winston Churchill was born in a ladies' room during a dance.

-The most common name in the world is Mohammed.

-Captain Jean-Luc Picard's fish was named Livingston. but this was never told during an episode

-The 'y' in signs reading 'ye olde..' is properly pronounced with a 'th' sound, not 'y'. The 'th' sound does not exist in Latin, so ancient Roman occupied (present day) England use the rune 'thorn' to represent 'th' sounds. With the advent of the printing press the character from the Roman alphabet which closest resembled thorn was the lower case 'y'.

-The word 'samba' means 'to rub navels together.'

-The international telephone dialing code for Antarctica is 672.

-The glue on Israeli postage stamps is certified kosher.

--The little bags of netting for gas lanterns (called 'mantles') are radioactive so much so that they will set of an alarm at a nuclear reactor.

-Mel Blanc (the voice of Bugs Bunny) was allergic to carrots.

-Each unit on the Richter Scale is equivalent to a power factor of about 32. So a 6 is 32 times more powerful than a 5! Though it goes to 10, 9 is estimated to be the point of total tectonic destruction (2 is the smallest that can be felt unaided.)

-Cinderella's slippers were originally made out of fur. The story was changed in the 1600s by a translator.

-It was the left shoe that Aschenputtel (Cinderella) lost at the stairway, when the prince tried to follow her.

-Until 1965, driving was done on the left-hand side on roads in Sweden. The conversion to right-hand was done on a weekday at 5pm. All traffic stopped as people switched sides. This time and day were chosen to prevent accidents where drivers would have gotten up in the morning and been too sleepy to realize *this* was the day of the changeover.

-Donald Duck's middle name is Fauntleroy.

-The very first bomb dropped by the Allies on Berlin during World War II killed the only elephant in the Berlin Zoo.

-Dr. Seuss pronounced 'Seuss' such that it rhymed with 'rejoice.'

-In Casablanca, Humphrey Bogart never said 'Play it again, Sam.'

-Sherlock Holmes never said 'Elementary, my dear Watson.'

-Captain Kirk never said 'Beam me up, Scotty,' but he did say, 'Beam me up, Mr. Scott'.

-Dueling is legal in Paraguay as long as both parties are registered blood donors.

-More people are killed annually by donkeys than die in air crashes.

-The flag of the Philippines is the only national flag that is flown differently during times of peace or war. A portion of the flag is blue, while the other is red. The blue portion is flown on top in time of peace and the red portion is flown in war time.

-Armored knights raised their visors to identify themselves when they rode past their king. This custom has become the modern military salute.

-The 'huddle' in football was formed due a deaf football player who used sign language to communicate and his team didn't want the opposition to see the signals he used and in turn huddled around him.

-Goethe couldn't stand the sound of barking dogs and could only write if he had an apple rotting in the drawer of his desk.

-If you are locked in a completely sealed room, you will die of carbon dioxide poisoning first before you will die of oxygen deprivation.

-Carnivorous animals will not eat another animal that has been hit by a lightning strike.

-The term, 'It's all fun and games until someone loses an eye' is from Ancient Rome. The only rule during wrestling matches was, 'No eye gouging.' Everything else was allowed, but the only way to be disqualified is to poke someone's eye out.

-Mr. Rogers is an ordained minister.

-Sir Isaac Newton was an ordained priest in the Church of England.

-A 'jiffy' is an actual unit of time for 1/100th of a second.

-The average person falls asleep in seven minutes.

-Certain frogs can be frozen solid then thawed, and continue living.

-The phrase 'rule of thumb' is derived from an old English law which stated that you couldn't beat your wife with anything wider than your thumb.

-The Baby Ruth candy bar was actually named after Grover Cleveland's baby daughter, Ruth.

-Hershey's Kisses are called that because the machine that makes them looks like it's kissing the conveyor belt.

-Steve Young, the San Francisco 49ers quarterback, is the great-great-grandson of Mormon leader Brigham Young.

-Money isn't made out of paper, it's made out of linen.

-Every time you lick a stamp, you're consuming 1/10 of a calorie.

Dated : 02102006

THE BANANA STORY!
Banana facts :
Check this out and after that take one of those banana and wack ur head!

Bananas contain three natural sugars - sucrose, fructose and glucose combined with fiber.
A banana gives an instant, sustained and substantial boost of energy.
Research has proven that just two bananas provide enough energy for a strenuous 90-minute workout.
No wonder the banana is the number one fruit with the world's leading athletes.
But energy isn't the only way a banana can help us keep fit.
It can also help overcome or prevent a substantial number of illnesses and conditions, making it a must to add to our daily diet.

Depression: (*CHRIS)
According to a recent survey undertaken by MIND amongst people suffering from depression, many felt much better after eating a banana.
This is because bananas contain tryptophan, a type of protein that the body converts into serotonin, known to make you relax, improve your mood and generally make you feel happier.

PMS:
Forget the pills - eat a banana.
The vitamin B6 it contains regulates blood glucose levels, which can affect your mood.

Anemia: (*CHRIS)
High in iron, bananas can stimulate the production of hemoglobin in the blood and so helps in cases of anemia.

Blood Pressure:
This unique tropical fruit is extremely high in potassium yet low in salt, making it perfect to beat blood pressure.
So much so, the US Food and Drug Administration has just allowed the banana industry to make official claims for the fruit's ability to reduce the risk of blood pressure and stroke.

Brain Power:
200 students at a Twickenham (Middlesex) school were helped through their exams this year by eating bananas at breakfast, break, and lunch in a bid to boost their brain power.
Research has shown that the potassium-packed fruit can assist learning by making pupils more alert.

Constipation:
High in fiber, including bananas in the diet can help restore normal bowel action, helping to overcome the problem without resorting to laxatives.

Hangovers:
One of the quickest ways of curing a hangover is to make a banana milkshake, sweetened with honey.
The banana calms the stomach and, with the help of the honey, builds up depleted blood sugar levels, while the milk soothes and re-hydrates your system.

Heartburn:
Bananas have a natural antacid effect in the body, so if you suffer from heartburn, try eating a banana for soothing relief.

Morning Sickness:
Snacking on bananas between meals helps to keep blood sugar levels up and avoid morning sickness.

Mosquito bites: (*CHRIS)
Before reaching for the insect bite cream, try rubbing the affected area with the inside of a banana skin.
Many people find it amazingly successful at reducing swelling and irritation.

Nerves: (*CHRIS)
Bananas are high in B vitamins that help calm the nervous system.

Overweight and at work?
Studies at the Institute of Psychology in Austria found pressure at wor k leads to gorging on comfort food like chocolate and crisps.
Looking at 5,000 hospital patients, researchers found the most obese were more likely to be in high-pressure jobs.
The report concluded that, to avoid panic-induced food cravings, we need to control our blood sugar levels by snacking on high carbohydrate foods every two hours to keep levels steady.

Ulcers: (*DOC!)
The banana is used as the dietary food against intestinal disorders because of its soft texture and smoothness.
It is the only raw fruit that can be eaten without distress in over-chronicler cases.
It also neutralizes over-acidity and reduces irritation by coating the lining of the stomach.

Temperature control:
Many other cultures see bananas as a "cooling" fruit that can lower both the physical and emotional temperature of expectant mothers.
In Thailand , for example, pregnant women eat bananas to ensure their baby is born with a cool temperature.

Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD):
Bananas can help SAD sufferers because they contain the natural mood enhancer tryptophan.

Smoking &Tobacco Use: (*CHRIS)
Bananas can also help people trying to give up smoking.
The B6, B12 they contain, as well as the potassium and magnesium found in them, help the body recover from the effects of nicotine withdrawal.

Stress: (*CHRIS + CHRIS)
Potassium is a vital mineral, which helps normalize the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance.
When we are stressed, our metabolic rate rises, thereby reducing our potassium levels.
These can be rebalanced with the help of a high-potassium banana snack.

Strokes:
According to research in The New England Journal of Medicine, eating bananas as part of a regular diet can cut the risk of death by strokes by as much as 40%!

Warts:
Those keen on natural alternatives swear that if you want to kill off a wart, take a piece of banana skin and place it on the wart, with the yellow side out.
Carefully hold the skin in place with a plaster or surgical tape!

So, a banana really is a natural remedy for many ills.
When you compare it to an apple, it has four times the protein, twice the carbohydrate, three times the phosphorus, five times the vitamin A and iron, and twice the other vitamins and minerals.
It is also rich in potassium and is one of the best value foods around.
So maybe its time to change that well-known phrase so that we say, "A banana a day keeps the doctor away!"